Keeping the fire going within your marriage when you have children can be a really hard task sometimes. Lots of interferences come into play on a daily basis, but it’s super important to make special time for your husband/wife. This also goes for people who don’t have kids! You guys have to work (not nearly as hard, ha!) as us at keeping the flame a’burnin’. Here are some ideas and concepts you may or may not have thought about:
1. Make Your Kid(s) Sleep In Their Own Bed!
When I go to sleep at night, I actually NEED my rest in order to keep up with my child’s demands during the day. It’s your one shot to re-energize and recharge, thus making you a better mom and partner. Let’s face it, when your child sleeps with you, NOBODY really sleeps, and you can never get comfortable.
Your child is probably old enough to start sleeping in their own crib, by themselves, and through the night by 6 months. Training your baby to sleep in their crib from a young age (6 months) is a GREAT way to establish a restful sleep pattern. Once they get the hang of it, they usually keep it. Pearl sleeps in her crib every night, all night, unless she’s sick or something. It only took a few days of crying, fussing, and fighting, but she got the hang of it and now won’t sleep anywhere BUT a crib. Sleeping alone with your husband can be very beneficial as it gives you guys more cuddle time and chances to hang out together, watch movies, and snuggle! If you are wondering how to sleep train, HERE is an article I already wrote on how to do it
2. Go On Date Nights
Dressing up and getting out of the house on a regular basis is crucial to maintain the “dating” feeling in a relationship. All too often we become comfortable with wearing our sweatpants and ordering take-out. Jack and I go on a date or just out to dinner alone once a week. I understand that’s not do-able for everyone, but I’m sure everyone can swing once or twice a month. Ask your mom, sister, or friend to watch your kid(s) for 2 hours while you and your partner go for dinner or to a movie. If you have siblings, set up a system where twice a month they watch your kids, and twice a month you return the favor for them! It’s important to have one on one time, focus, and listen to each other without worrying about what little Timmy is getting into.
3. Pillow Talk
HERE is the printable version of a cute little article I found on Pinterest. It’s a questionnaire of sorts in which you can get to know your spouse better! Use this one or make up your own questions. I love this idea. It is so important to constantly grow and get to know each other better and better.
4. Fun In-Home Dates
- Have dinner or dessert outside. Light some candles, crack open a bottle of wine, and enjoy take out or a home cooked meal together on the deck!
- Have a theme night: Order chinese food and watch a kung fu movie!
- Make an easy dessert together, like bananas foster, and it eat together!
- Pick something you guys both always wanted to learn to do, for example, juggling, and youtube an instructional video. Spend the night learning how to do cool things together!
- Play trivia with each other. There are lots of good APPS that have trivia games you can download.
5. Meet Your Partner for Impromptu Lunches
If your kids are in school, call your partner up for a lunchtime date. It can be fun to meet up during the day in a minute’s notice. It keeps things spontaneous and “young”…haha! Also, you can write an email that says “meet me at the park at 12:15 P.M.”….and when he gets there, have a small lunch time picnic set up for you guys!
Keep it Fresh,