I never wanted to be one of those parents who screamed, counted to three without implementing a consequence, argued with my toddler, etc…but, I found myself in that position as I argued for a good 10 minutes with my toddler over wether or not she was going to sit down and eat dinner. It’s a bit of a scary feeling when you first realize that your cute little blob of human has learned to defy you.
My sister nagged me to read this book for the first year of Pearl’s life. She bought it for me as a stocking stuffer to push the hint. I put it off because Pearl was still a slobbering paper weight at that point, so I thought it would be untimely. Little did I know, I would be needing that parenting advice a few months later. Before I knew it, I found myself completely baffled at how to parent when suddenly, one day, I needed to implement discipline. I realized I had no control of my almost 2 year old, and I had been giving her the best excuse, which was: “She doesn’t understand, she’s two.” HAHA! If you tell a toddler that you’re going to get Ice cream, and you don’t follow through with that, the child will most likely remind you at some point that day. The same principle applies when you’re trying to discipline them. They understand what you are saying when you say, “No more candy, time to eat dinner.” Notice the reaction. If they can understand that, then they can understand a consequence.
After I had this epiphany, I frantically dug up my past Christmas gift & read the whole thing in one night. Disclaimer: I’m not being paid to write about this book, I am just passionate about its teachings.
The book is called: Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood (ages 0-6).
The goal of effective parenting is for us to turn our words into GOLD. Imagine only having to say something once. Here are a couple of examples of the things you will be reading about:
Love and Logic parenting really believes in giving your children LOTS and LOTS of choices when the stakes are low. Meaning, if they get to make choices all the time when it’s not important, it’s much easier for the parent to gain back the choice making when they need to. A child who never gets to make their own choices will be more reluctant to respecting your authority. The book also gets into how empathy is so important. We have to genuinely show our kids that we are sad when they make bad choices, and we are not happy to give them consequences. It is all about the preservation of the parent-child bond, and making sure resentments don’t build toward us. Another key concept is to let your kids make mistakes so they have opportunity to grow and learn from them when the stakes are LOW, rather than later on when they are a teenager or young adult and the stakes are much higher (sex, drugs, etc.)
When your kids are out of the 0-6 range, they have follow up books such as :
HERE is where you can download or order the book from Amazon. Check your local bookstores as well!