RaddestMom’s C-Section Story

Disclaimer: This piece is not meant to discredit the need for C-sections, or disregard their extreme value. This is my personal experience of having one, and how I felt about it. Please do not take personal offense to this if you’ve had a c-section and you disagree with my statements. We are all entitled to our opinion when it comes to each of our experiences.

Hi all! It’s been some time since I’ve blogged about my personal life. As most of you know, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl back in June. It’s been an exhausting recovery for me! Andy Rose was breech, therefore, in America, I was only given the option of a C-section if I wanted to birth in hospital. I had a lot of issues with this, and I tried everything I could to turn the baby. I went to a chiropractor weekly, did all of the moves you’re supposed to do when trying to turn a baby, and even had a medical “version” performed by my Dr. in hospital which was unsuccessful. After my C-section, my Dr. told me that she was just comfortably cuddled up against my placenta, basically using it as a pillow, without any intentions of changing out of that position.

Leading up to my C-section I had SO much anxiety. I was the definition of a hot mess. I had no desire to be sliced open while I am STILL AWAKE, and was even more bummed over the expectation that I was supposed to be excited over greeting my newborn during this traumatic event. I had huge issues with the fact that I was going to have major abdominal surgery, and this was supposed to be, like, a “memorable” day. EW. I knew she was breech the whole third trimester, and she never went head down, not even once. I kept a positive outlook for a while, hoping that she could turn at the last minute, as I had a friend who’s baby recently went head down at the very last minute. I knew deep down that this would not be my luck, but I couldn’t help but feel like MAYBE it could happen. I also have a friend who had a breech birth at home with a doctor and a midwife, and that went really well for her. But, I am not as brave as she (or tough for that matter!). So, I reluctantly succumbed to the dreaded C-section.

I started to mentally prepare for a C-section at least a month before my due date. I felt like I couldn’t completely mentally prepare, because there still was a chance she could turn and I wouldn’t have to have the operation. I think it only really hit me that it was happening as I was laying on the table. Even the morning of the surgery, I still hoped that I would go in and they would check and she would miraculously have gone head down, as my doctor had even told me she’s seen this happen a few times. I was so worked up and anxious over the surgery for a month leading up to it, that when it finally was game day, I was literally SO chill. Not something I expected, but I went with it.

Walking into the OR was a very surreal feeling. When I had my tonsils out, I don’t remember going into the OR because they had already given me some IV drugs to chill me out beforehand. This time, I was completely coherent and alert. The spinal was the thing I was most worried about, but that ended up being the easiest part! If I had to describe the whole thing in one word, it would be: WEIRD…allow me to elaborate!

The sensation of being awake while having your abdomen and uterus cut open is not really like anything else I have experienced. The pulling and tugging feeling you experience the whole time is something that you will always remember. I can’t quite describe it with words, but I’ll try: your guts being yanked around and manhandled. It was quite unpleasant, and something I hope I never have to experience again. I’ve watched “A Baby Story” on TLC, and during the surgery, you always hear the Dr. say, “Ok, now, you’ll feel some pressure and a tug here,” and then the baby comes out. Let me be clear when I say THE ENTIRE PROCEDURE FROM THE TIME THEY ARE CLEANING THE BELLY BEFORE INCISION TO THE STITCHING UP FEELS LIKE TUGGING AND PULLING AND PRESSURE. There is no pain, but it doesn’t feel nice.
It feels just plain gross. I could also smell my flesh burning from the freaking laser torch they used to slice me with, so that made it extra lovely.

As the procedure happened, I felt myself becoming more and more out of it. The drugs they pump you with during a C-section must be pretty freaking good if they were able to keep my crazy ass chilled out during something like this. I didn’t feel high, per say, but I definitely felt out of it and weird. Sort of like I was dreaming. Looking back at the video Jack took of me during the surgery, I have this hella concerned look on my face the entire time. I’m pretty sure I was waiting to die. Around the time they finally pulled the baby out, I started feeling a lot of shoulder pain. Like, excruciating pain shooting through my entire neck and into both shoulders. So much so, that I couldn’t feel excited about the baby coming out or think about anything other than the brutal, stabby pains shooting through my upper arms. I started complaining to the anesthesiologist, and he said this was normal. Get this: he said it was GAS?! For real, bro? Apparently when your innards are exposed, lots of air goes into your body from being open. It then tries to find its way out when you’re all closed up. The catch is that the gas is not in your intestines, it’s actually in your body and usually moves up towards the shoulders and chest, thus causing excruciating pain! It hurt so badly that when I finally got to hold Andy, I could barely hold her due to the aching. As soon as I got in recovery, I got some anti-inflammatory meds that helped a lot. This was my first shitty side effect of the anesthesia.

It didn’t get better from there. I suddenly got SO hot it felt like I was in HELL. Literally, like someone slathered me in olive oil and put me on the grill. I was begging for them to dip me in a vat of ice water, STAT, but to my dismay, they handed me a slightly cool towel. As I suspected it would, it melted on contact with my neck. Just kidding. But, it felt like it. How I eventually cooled off is a blur, since the meds they give you tend to make you forget the whole thing, to which I say, “what’s the point of being awake if I’m not going to really remember it.” It kind of feels like trying to remember a dream when you wake up in the morning. You remember bits and pieces, but it doesn’t really make sense. You end up remembering weird things, such as your doctors talking about Groupon as you’re being stitched up.

I won’t go into the other gory details of my post surgery experience, but let’s just say it’s not pretty for a couple of weeks.

Something that I feel really helped me to bond with the baby was breastfeeding. Since we didn’t go through labor and natural delivery together, I felt like there was this energy missing between us. This was hard for me to deal with in the beginning, and I suffered with anxiety and depression for the first few weeks after the birth. Breastfeeding definitely helped bridge that gap. When you have a c-section, you don’t release the labor and delivery hormones that are necessary to help your hormones shift correctly. You can have a sort of delayed response. For instance, I didn’t feel like I had a baby for several weeks after the birth. With my first baby, I felt like I had given birth immediately, and I had my hormone drop-off that night, when I started sweating a lot and feeling all of the effects of a hormonal surge.

After my C-section, it was totally weird. I had no weird hormonal things that happened. I wasn’t emotional at all. I didn’t even cry when I heard her first cry, and that really upset me. I felt like the drugs they gave me made me emotionally numb. I felt like the C-section took the emotional high away from me that I wanted to experience again SO badly like I had with my first. It took three weeks before I felt any emotion or hormone surges. I’m convinced that when you have a C-section, your body doesn’t know it had a baby. Rates of postpartum depression are higher with C-sections, and I believe it is because of that reason. Your body thinks something traumatic happened to the baby, since you didn’t go through labor and delivery, and the baby didn’t come out where it was supposed to come out. Women release all kinds of good and necessary hormones during labor and delivery, that are essential for the baby, the mother, bonding, and kick starting all of the body’s other mechanisms like breast milk production, lochia flow, etc.

C-sections can be life saving, and they have their place. Lots of women NEED C-sections. My sister NEEDED a c-section that saved her baby’s life. I am very glad we have them. But, for me, it’s been hard to justify having one simply because my baby was breech. They deliver breech babies naturally all around the world every day. America is one of the few countries that doesn’t. That is probably because they can make much more money off of a surgery. There’s been a bit of a rise in the debate over wether or not surgery is necessary for breech presentation. I am on the fence. Statistics show that if a mother has had a baby fit through her pelvis before, and the baby is presenting a frank breech (not footling), it’s probably completely safe to have a vaginal delivery. However, if you have had no previous births, and the baby is footling breech, it’s probably safer to have a C-section. I don’t see why American medicine can’t compromise, here. If I had to do it over again, I think I would have seriously explored more options before making my decision, as I really did not enjoy the whole process and felt like it robbed me of things I wanted. I have friends who didn’t mind their C-section, so I guess everyone is different. But, for me, I would always choose a vaginal birth over surgery any day, having experienced both.

At the end of the day, I got a beautiful, healthy, baby girl, and I really didn’t have any complications from the surgery. For this, I am blessed!

Now: About Andy:

She’s great. Such a little ray of sunshine. She is a totally different baby than Pearl was, which is obvious because she’s a different person, but I guess I was surprised by how different their personalities can be even as infants. She is the cutest little button and has brought so much joy to our lives. I stare at her, and am amazed by how beautiful she is! Pearl is an amazing big sister, and she so obsessed with her. She always wants to share things with her and play with her. She talks in a high pitched voice to Andy when she is talking to her. She mimics everything I say to the baby, and it’s pretty dang cute. Pearl is a special kid, but she has really been shining since Andy’s birth. Breastfeeding was challenging in the beginning, but we have a great nursing relationship now & I finally figured out how to use my breast pump! Something I’ve found incredibly helpful is while Andy is nursing on one side, I pump the other out as she feeds. My milk flow has increased a lot & I have tons of milk stored already. Andy went from being in the 9th percentile in weight when she was born to the 75th percentile just a month later. She’s already doubled her birth weight. I guess you could say she’s eating pretty good ;).
Now that she is sleeping better, I will be posting and updating more. I can’t wait to get back into all of my DIY stuff, as I’ve been really missing doing projects!




7 comments on “RaddestMom’s C-Section Story

  1. Jeanie

    Dear sweet precious beautiful, Lisa—thank you so much for sharing your delivery story…OMG how terrible for you…I am so sorry you had to endure such an ordeal. My daughter had 3 C-sections. I was with her when she delivered her first son and it was quite an experience to observe, let alone endure. I can understand what you went through. I was blessed and honored to be the first to hold my grandson, Jacob, who is now 25. In fact, I sent you a picture of him a while back because he resembles your handsome husband.  You certainly have a beautiful family. Andy is so very precious and little Pearl I see is a fantastic big sister. I am so happy for you all. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending much love to you and your family. I so enjoy following you. <3

  2. Alicia M

    Hi Lisa,
    Thanks for writing this! I loved hearing your experience! I don’t want to cloud your joyous birth of Andy but was wondering if you can share a little bit how your previous loss impacted your pregnancy? What did you do to manage anxiety that something was wrong again? I’m really hoping you can elaborate on some coping mechanisms that have helped you to get through hardship.

  3. I was wondering about what happened. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. My cesareans were for a totally different reason- large babies. Both babies were head down and in perfect position but since both of my boys were over 10 pounds and I’m a tiny lady I couldn’t find anyone to deliver naturally even when I was considering VBAC the second time around. It was a lot harder for me since I only had a handful of doctors to choose from with our insurance and I didn’t have too many choices. I went through some of the same emotions you did. I fought so hard to breastfeed my boys but I was able to do it. After the first cesarean experience the head doctor from the pediatrics department came in my room and told me I wouldn’t make enough milk for my big baby. She told me all sorts of scary things and shook her head in disbelief every time I attempted to pump milk at the hospital. I ended up breastfeeding him until his toddler years. After my first cesarean I was determined to have a natural birth. I was even considering a home birth. It made me feel horrible that I wasn’t able to go through with it. The best part though is that I came prepared with a birth plan the moment I knew no one would give a VBAC. And yes, they do pump all sorts of weird drugs to make you happy. I think they do this so they won’t have to deal with a cranky patient afterwards. It’s very hard to feel normal again after surgery both physically and emotionally. Breastfeeding my boys definitely helped filled that void I feeling after my surgeries.

  4. Carla

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience, Lisa.

    My first birth experience was exactly like this. C-section due to baby being breech. I struggled to bond with him. I struggled to breastfeed. I struggled with anxiety and depression and did not enjoy the first few months of my baby’s life at all. I had a really hard time accepting that I did not have the birth experienced I always envisioned.

    With my second child I was fortunate enough to have a natural, drug free birth. What an amazing experience. It definitely helped with some of the issues I still had regarding the birth of my first child. In some way, it ‘healed’ a lot of my hurt, proving to myself that I was capable of giving birth the way nature intended.

  5. Daisy

    Hi Lisa, thank you for sharing such personal part of you. I too had a C-section, I was in labor for nearly 24 hours and I knew that he wasn’t coming out unless we intervened. I do agree with you about how different it feels when having a C-section, granted I only have one child, but my friends have had “normal” deliveries and I can feel the difference through them. I did suffer from postpartum depression and I was unable to breast feed and I think it was because of the C-section; I only got maybe 1 or 2 minutes with him before they took him away and then I was asleep for a few hours after that. I also felt the backlash of having a C-section from my family, because they saw it as easy way out and I felt a bit like an outcast. Now my son just turned 6 and he’s happy and healthy and I couldn’t be happier. Thank you for telling your story and shining a real light to what us women go through. Thanks love!!

  6. Emma

    First of all, congratulations to you, Jack, and Pearl!

    What a story. I’ve had a fascination with birth, and America’s birthing policies since watching The Business of Being Born. I wish it wasn’t pretty much all about the money, but it really is. We birthed successfully for thousands of years before modern c-sections, and there is a lot of literature about the safety of a home birth actually being higher as well as creating a more serene and comfortable atmosphere in which to birth.

    There is plenty of evidence that c-sections CAN be lifesaving, but are being performed at an unnecessary rate and are generally causing more harm than good because of this, especially as the medical system profits yet hospitals are more full and people are more sick than ever. You’re certainly right about the improper hormones and brain chemical release. One more important point is the evidence that the baby doesn’t pick up certain healthy microbes/bacteria it would otherwise get during natural birth, which can cause higher rates of asthma and allergies, as well as the potential for obesity, bowel disorders, etc. I’m not a doctor, but after taking early childhood education classes I’m certain there are clear links.

    My mother was 43 when she delivered me (her first child) breech. We were minutes away from a c-section when she begged for one more chance to get up and walk around before a final push, and I was born minutes later. I’m so thankful she advocated for a natural birth and the nurse who listened to her and allowed it.

    Every experience is a lesson and perhaps your c-section allowed you to have a perspective you otherwise wouldn’t have, and fueled your passion to help point out that something is clearly wrong, though obviously it was a rough experience. Despite that I’m so glad to hear Andy is a happy and healthy little one :)

    Side note; another incredible perspective is the ABC video ‘CHILD BIRTH ORGASM : Best Kept Secret of Labor?’ on youtube. A lot of people can’t handle the concept of a pleasurable, blissful birth… but it’s pretty fascinating to watch and a concept that is heavily suppressed as it also contradicts the medical community’s propaganda campaign to keep people thinking that birth is scary and painful and modern women are weak creatures who have to birth in a hospital. The video also points out that hospital births make labour last longer and more painful due to the fearful setting, and unnatural birthing position (on your back, legs up.) Very interesting.

    Thank you for sharing your story Lisa!

  7. Emma

    “…there is a lot of literature about the safety of a home birth actually being higher” **FOR LOW RISK PREGNANCIES, and not just the American definition of ‘low-risk’, very important point I forgot to add :)

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